Finding the Gold in the Fire

When the discovery is made that a relationship is having an affair, often there is chaos, stress and anger at the one in the affair. Little effort is made to understand what has happened, rather all the energy is expressed as blaming and criticism at the one in the affair. This rupture has contaminated the “Space Between” and the perceived connections between the partners are lost. Since the affair is seen as a complaint against the partner for acting outside of the relationship, we will look for the “Gold” and the unmet needs that are driving this behavior, this rupture. In this series, we will present a therapeutic perspective that can form the basis for understanding why there is so much “Gold” to be discovered. Secondly, Rebecca will look at mining the “Gold” when this couple comes into the therapist's office in their chaotic state. And thirdly, Kobus will look at the experience of disconnection that describes the movement from perceived disconnection to transformation.

This course will help you to

  • Understand the roots of why affairs occur in today's society

  • Adapt methods and tools to successfully guide your couples through the process of a post-affair

  • Convey to couples that affairs present an opportunity for transformation for both partners

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Course Content

Course curriculum

    1. Gene Shelly - Lecture on Understanding the Gold in the Fire

    1. Rebecca Sears - Lecture on From the Office Chairs to Restoration and Repair

    2. Handout

    1. Kobus van der Merwe - Lecture on From Affair to Transformation

About this course

  • $79.00
  • 4 lessons
  • 1.5 hours of video content

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How to contact your Instructors

  • How to contact Gene Shelly?

    We invite you to send a direct mail to Gene Shelly via "[email protected]". If you are unable to establish contact with your instructor, please send an email to "[email protected]".

  • How to contact Rebecca Sears?

    We invite you to send a direct mail to Rebecca Sears via "[email protected]". If you are unable to establish contact with your instructor, please send an email to "[email protected]".

  • How to contact Kobus van der Merwe?

    We invite you to send a direct mail to Kobus van der Merwe via "[email protected]". If you are unable to establish contact with your instructor, please send an email to "[email protected]".